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Wellspring - June 19, 2015

WellSpring Associates
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Pattern Change

Old pattern: When the plan I implemented doesn’t go as I expected it to…I manage my feelings by “trying” to control and manage external people or situations: i.e. spouse, children, boss, “them,” and “it.”

New pattern: When things don’t go as planned I manage and respond to me instead of reacting to “them” or “it”. I practice developing and fine turning this new pattern of focusing my attention to soothing my feelings and deciding what I want to think and do. I dedicate myself to this better way of being a great person.

The measurement of success are these questions: What is the consequence of the old pattern compared to the new pattern? And What is my goal?


Xander Abrams’s practice is based upon Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Mindfulness.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is an evidence-based counseling approach which is based upon the concept that your beliefs and thoughts are determined by their unique perception of an event. You have the choice to believe and obey that thought or not believe and not obey your thought. When you automatically accept a thought as the ultimate truth, you limit your repertoire of responses. You have the choice to believe or not believe a thought by deciding if that specific thought is helpful to your situation.

“Mindfulness is the awareness that emerges through the discipline of paying attention on your purpose, in the present moment, and allowing yourself to non-judgmentally experience the unfolding that experience moment by moment”…(Daniel Moran)

“Mindfulness is paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment non-judgmentally”…Jon Kabat-Zinn 
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